Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Life Coach Tamara Grant

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Do you understand what your passions and talents are?

Do you know that you deserve to live life on purpose with purpose?

Could you use some assistance in unlocking the keys to your personal success?

Life Coach Tamara Grant can assist you in your journey.

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Tuesday, March 29, 2011

Finding Middle Ground

Everything in life is about balance. Good and Evil. Happy and Sad. It's usually made up of two extremes with no mention of the middle ground. Finding that middle ground is what creates a sense of peace within us.

By nature, I'm a pretty outspoken person. If you know me, you usually don't have to wonder how I feel about something or someone. That can be a good thing. But it can also be a point of contention for me. A lot of people don't know how to deal with a person that speaks their mind, but at the same time, an opinion is not always needed.

In my early 20s I heard two quotes that stuck with me. "Pick and choose your battles" and "Strength is sometimes the purr of a cat and not the roar of a lion". I learned that there is a time and place to speak up and a way to do so so that people will hear what you are trying to say. So a part of me started to pull back and not speak my mind because I didn't know how to find balance between my impulse to speak up and the need to be heard.

Now in my 30s I realize that there can be a balance. In order to feel a sense of peace, there has to be balance. I understand that there is power in silence, but a need to set boundaries with people so you teach them how to treat you. I still struggle with determining when to speak up. Sometimes I squash the urge and feel helpless afterwards because I keep thinking "I should have said.." Then other times, I'm happy with the fact that I said something but hate the fact that maybe it wasn't said at a time when the other person can truly receive what was said.

Finding that middle ground is and will continue to be an everyday personal struggle. But balance is important and necessary in our lives to maintain a sense of peace.

Today's challenge:

Find areas in your life where balance needs to be created.

Pay attention to any extremes in your life and decide how to balance those issues to find middle ground.

Peace and Blessings,

Serenity and Strength Consulting

Saturday, March 12, 2011

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Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Opportunity Knocks

Has opportunity knocked at your door and you didn’t answer?
Some of what happens to us is out of our control, but much of what happens comes out of us taking opportunities that come our way.
I heard a sermon one time and the pastor said “What good is it to wait at home hoping an employer would call you if you didn’t fill out an application?” That summed it up for me. How can you wait for something to happen to you when you didn’t take initiative to make anything happen?
“Seize the moment”.
“Take the opportunity”.
Both of those require action.
Neither say that you sit by passively waiting for something to happen to you. You are making the moment or opportunity happen. Seize and Take are verbs that say that an action on your part is required.
At the same time that you have the power to make something happen, you have the power to not make it happen. If you skip out on a chance to network by speaking with someone to connect with them, then you are actively missing out on an opportunity. Do you want to become an entrepreneur, but you are too scared to step out on faith and take risks? If you choose not to do something that will help you continue on the road of your destiny, then it is only your fault when things don’t go the way you envisioned them.
Often we fall victim to fear, anxiety, and doubt. So many of us have great ideas, dreams, or plans, but never fully execute them because we allow fear, anxiety, and doubt to creep in and take over. Then we are left with resentment, regret, and a life long relationship with “shoulda, coulda, woulda.” Some of us cop out passively when we don’t take advantage of an opportunity and say “I guess that wasn’t for me.” If you don’t take a chance at something, how do you know that it wasn’t the right opportunity for you?

Today’s Challenge:

Recognize that you are more in control of your destiny then you give yourself credit for. (For my religious folks that say to just pray on it, remember faith without works is dead.)
You are the only one holding you back. Acknowledge opportunities when they present themselves. Be honest with yourself and recognize what stops you from taking full advantage of opportunities that come your way?

**Remember the old adage about the drowning man and the boat. He encountered three people riding past him that offered him help from the rising waters as he sat and waited for opportunity to present himself. When he got to heaven and expressed his anger to God that he had drowned on that roof, God kindly reminded him that he sent him 3 boats and that he did not take any of the opportunities that were sent his way so he had no one to be angry with but himself!

How empowering is that to know that you have that much control over your life?

Peace and Blessings,

Serenity and Strength Consulting

Thursday, March 3, 2011

Birds of a feather

Take a second to look at the kinds of people that you have in your circle. Who do you keep closest to you?

When my husband first met my friends, his comment to me was that he loved the fact that I had a lot of genuine people around me and in my corner. He loved the fact that I could be a few states away and could make a phone call and easily find someone that would help me out- no questions asked. One of the things that he said that struck me was when he said that the fact that I had friends like that said a lot about who I am. I had never really thought about it before. To me, a friend was someone that gives as much as you do for them; someone that you don't have to see or talk to everyday, but when you do connect, it's like time never passed.

I have to say that I am fortunate to have some great people in my circle. Not only the people that I've known for most of my life, but also the new people that I have met as well as I grow older. Now most of my friends are mothers, wives, working professionals- just like myself. I also tend to hang out with people who are motivated, women who want more than mediocre, and people that think positively and are not down for drama and chaos.

That conversation with him made me realize that we have a choice in the type of people that we have around us when we are adults. It's not like it was when you were in grade school and forced to deal with certain people that you would prefer not to. This includes family too at this point.

Is your social life filled with drama? Something in you is attracting that drama- Birds of a feather.

Can you look back and say that you have at least 1-2 friends that you have a positive relationship with that you have known and connected with for over 10 years? Do you constantly find yourself cycling through friends every few years or so- Birds of a feather.

Do you find yourself thinking at times that your friend is trifling and wondering why they aren't there for you when you need them- Birds of a feather.

If you find that you are unable to have people in your corner that you can truly trust- maybe you are not as trustworthy as you think you are. It's like when I hear women say that they don't hang out with other women because other women cause too much drama...but they forget about the drama that they cause.

The old saying goes "Birds of a feather flock together."

Who is in your flock?

Today's Challenge:

Inventory the type of people you have in your circle. Discover what it is about you that attracts and allows those type of people in your life. Decide what needs to be changed and have the courage to change it. It may be hard to walk away from some of the people that are in your circle after doing the inventory, but at what cost are you allowing them to remain in your circle?

Peace and Blessings,

Serenity & Strength Consulting