Letting go of hurt and pain

Letting go of hurt and pain. Tip #2 to Live Your Best Life. Why should you let go? You've been hurt before and you would like to think that the person that hurt you actually cares enough to feel bad about it.

Truth is, most people don't intentionally hurt you, and some of the hard feelings we feel are based on our own perception of the situation vs the reality of the situation and what the other person actually intended. Our temperament and our experience shapes our perceptions and our perceptions are the lens through which we view life.

There are times when you are intentionally victimized ie being robbed, assaulted, or abused. And those instances are unfortunate and also shape the way that we see our lives.

The good news is, you don't have to hold on to all of that hurt and pain. You're not supposed to hold on to it. It may feel comfortable to hold on to it, like a badge of honor. It eventually becomes a crutch. "I've been hurt before, so I don't have to be faithful in relationships." "I've been hurt before so I don't have to give my all or form strong relationships." "I've been hurt before so I can hurt other people."

None of that is true. You've been hurt before, but you don't have to wallow in the pain. Pain is a short term need. It serves to help you protect yourself briefly. You touch a hot stove, you feel the pain of the heat to notify you to move your hand. But did you realize that there is pain involved in the healing process? While that burn is healing, there will be some pain, some scabbing, some peeling until there is new skin.

Isn't that amazing? You too can come through pain in the same way. There will be pain, scabbing, peeling, but in the end, you should come out a new person. A person ready to let go of the past and live life in the present. Learn to forgive not for the other person's sake, but for your own. Leting go is not a sign of weakness, it is a vision of strength.

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21 Signs of Stress-Belief.net

If you have been fortunate enough to live a life with no stress, you just haven't lived long enough! We all will endure stressors at some point in life. The good news is, there is a such thing as good stress: moving to a new home, graduating from high school or college, having a new baby. The bad news is that negative stressors are a part of life: enduring loss of any kind, divorce, finances. Some of us are better than others at dealing with and recognizing stress. It's an important skill to learn.

Click the link below to identify some signs of stress.

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Imagine That

When you are a child, your imagination is pretty active. You may not have had imaginary friends, but children often imagine what they are going to be when they grow up or spend time zoning out while thinking about their favorite movie.

What happens to our imagination as we grow older? As an adult, you probably don't imagine yourself as a fairy tale princess or a powerful robot that can destroy the earth. You most likely imagine yourself on vacation at the beach when you are feeling over worked or imagine yourself driving in that new luxury car- more practical things.

What if we went back to the childlike innocence that tells us that there are no limits on what we can attain? Realistically, if you are not born into royalty, you will not become a princess, but ladies wasn't that dream about being the ultimate diva that has everything that she wants? And yes fellas, you probably won't become a powerful robot that destroys the earth, but wasn't that dream really about being in control of your destiny?

Children have the capacity to dream with no limits. When they imagine things, nothing tells that they can't have it. What if you imagined what you want your life to look like 5 years from now and you knew that it was attainable? What if you let your imagination run wild and it was free of doubt, fear of rejection, and negativity? What would life be like for you then?

Today's Challenge: Think back to your childhood and where you imagined yourself to be at this point in your life. Are you where you imagined yourself to be? Let yourself think beyond the limits that you allow others to put on you, including the limits that you put on yourself and imagine where you would like to be in life in another 5 years. Set attainable goals to get there.

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Spring Cleaning

Every year as soon as the winter weather breaks, I'm ready to throw the windows open and feel the fresh air flow through my house. It's that time when I do what we term Spring Cleaning. You air out the house, change the filters, wash windows, and hopefully spend some time de-cluttering your home of things that you don't use or can't use anymore.

Wouldn't it be amazing if we did that mentally for ourselves? What would your life look like if you did some Spring Cleaning in your personal or professional life?

It's actually more necessary than you think. Holding on to unhealthy habits, relationships, etc can physically and mentally weigh you down. Look at it like cleaning out your closet. First you have to agree to even open the closet door and do the cleaning. Then you have to pick a section to start with. Doing this helps us to feel less overwhelmed by the entire task. After we pick a section, we have to sort through the things that we need to keep and the things that need to get thrown away or given away. Sometimes we have emotional attachments to things that we need to get rid of and we think twice about getting rid of them. But there is no need to keep those pants that don't fit anymore just because you looked cute in them 3 years ago at a concert with your husband.

When we Spring Clean, we have to be willing to let go of those things that have emotional holds over us. We also must be willing to focus on moving forward. Once we de-clutter, we make room for the things or people that deserve to be in our space. Take that time to reset goals that are attainable and that reflect your passions.

Be willing to get rid of those things or people that are causing chaos, anxiety, or negativity in your space. Take the time to reflect on where you have been and where you would like to go.

Today's challenge: De-clutter your mental space. Figure out what things are necessary in your life and which things are unecessarily taking up space. Set at least 3 goals for yourself and revisit your progress in 3 months.

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