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Saturday, March 12, 2011
Why Virtual Counseling?
Serenity & Strength Consulting
Now offering Virtual Counseling and Life Coaching services.
Why Virtual?
Virtual Counseling allows you to connect with a life coach and therapist from the comfort of your own home.
Virtual Counseling: Skype (available April 2011) and email/ chat (available now)
Face to Face Life Coaching and Therapy available in Atlanta area (April 2011)
Contact Serenity & Strength Consulting to determine what will work best for you!
**All services rendered by Tamara Grant, LCSW.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Opportunity Knocks
Has opportunity knocked at your door and you didn’t answer?
Some of what happens to us is out of our control, but much of what happens comes out of us taking opportunities that come our way.
I heard a sermon one time and the pastor said “What good is it to wait at home hoping an employer would call you if you didn’t fill out an application?” That summed it up for me. How can you wait for something to happen to you when you didn’t take initiative to make anything happen?
“Seize the moment”.
“Take the opportunity”.
Both of those require action.
Neither say that you sit by passively waiting for something to happen to you. You are making the moment or opportunity happen. Seize and Take are verbs that say that an action on your part is required.
At the same time that you have the power to make something happen, you have the power to not make it happen. If you skip out on a chance to network by speaking with someone to connect with them, then you are actively missing out on an opportunity. Do you want to become an entrepreneur, but you are too scared to step out on faith and take risks? If you choose not to do something that will help you continue on the road of your destiny, then it is only your fault when things don’t go the way you envisioned them.
Often we fall victim to fear, anxiety, and doubt. So many of us have great ideas, dreams, or plans, but never fully execute them because we allow fear, anxiety, and doubt to creep in and take over. Then we are left with resentment, regret, and a life long relationship with “shoulda, coulda, woulda.” Some of us cop out passively when we don’t take advantage of an opportunity and say “I guess that wasn’t for me.” If you don’t take a chance at something, how do you know that it wasn’t the right opportunity for you?
Today’s Challenge:
Recognize that you are more in control of your destiny then you give yourself credit for. (For my religious folks that say to just pray on it, remember faith without works is dead.)
You are the only one holding you back. Acknowledge opportunities when they present themselves. Be honest with yourself and recognize what stops you from taking full advantage of opportunities that come your way?
**Remember the old adage about the drowning man and the boat. He encountered three people riding past him that offered him help from the rising waters as he sat and waited for opportunity to present himself. When he got to heaven and expressed his anger to God that he had drowned on that roof, God kindly reminded him that he sent him 3 boats and that he did not take any of the opportunities that were sent his way so he had no one to be angry with but himself!
How empowering is that to know that you have that much control over your life?
Serenity and Strength Consulting
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Birds of a feather
Take a second to look at the kinds of people that you have in your circle. Who do you keep closest to you?
When my husband first met my friends, his comment to me was that he loved the fact that I had a lot of genuine people around me and in my corner. He loved the fact that I could be a few states away and could make a phone call and easily find someone that would help me out- no questions asked. One of the things that he said that struck me was when he said that the fact that I had friends like that said a lot about who I am. I had never really thought about it before. To me, a friend was someone that gives as much as you do for them; someone that you don't have to see or talk to everyday, but when you do connect, it's like time never passed.
I have to say that I am fortunate to have some great people in my circle. Not only the people that I've known for most of my life, but also the new people that I have met as well as I grow older. Now most of my friends are mothers, wives, working professionals- just like myself. I also tend to hang out with people who are motivated, women who want more than mediocre, and people that think positively and are not down for drama and chaos.
That conversation with him made me realize that we have a choice in the type of people that we have around us when we are adults. It's not like it was when you were in grade school and forced to deal with certain people that you would prefer not to. This includes family too at this point.
Is your social life filled with drama? Something in you is attracting that drama- Birds of a feather.
Can you look back and say that you have at least 1-2 friends that you have a positive relationship with that you have known and connected with for over 10 years? Do you constantly find yourself cycling through friends every few years or so- Birds of a feather.
Do you find yourself thinking at times that your friend is trifling and wondering why they aren't there for you when you need them- Birds of a feather.
If you find that you are unable to have people in your corner that you can truly trust- maybe you are not as trustworthy as you think you are. It's like when I hear women say that they don't hang out with other women because other women cause too much drama...but they forget about the drama that they cause.
The old saying goes "Birds of a feather flock together."
Who is in your flock?
Today's Challenge:
Inventory the type of people you have in your circle. Discover what it is about you that attracts and allows those type of people in your life. Decide what needs to be changed and have the courage to change it. It may be hard to walk away from some of the people that are in your circle after doing the inventory, but at what cost are you allowing them to remain in your circle?
Peace and Blessings,
Serenity & Strength Consulting
When my husband first met my friends, his comment to me was that he loved the fact that I had a lot of genuine people around me and in my corner. He loved the fact that I could be a few states away and could make a phone call and easily find someone that would help me out- no questions asked. One of the things that he said that struck me was when he said that the fact that I had friends like that said a lot about who I am. I had never really thought about it before. To me, a friend was someone that gives as much as you do for them; someone that you don't have to see or talk to everyday, but when you do connect, it's like time never passed.
I have to say that I am fortunate to have some great people in my circle. Not only the people that I've known for most of my life, but also the new people that I have met as well as I grow older. Now most of my friends are mothers, wives, working professionals- just like myself. I also tend to hang out with people who are motivated, women who want more than mediocre, and people that think positively and are not down for drama and chaos.
That conversation with him made me realize that we have a choice in the type of people that we have around us when we are adults. It's not like it was when you were in grade school and forced to deal with certain people that you would prefer not to. This includes family too at this point.
Is your social life filled with drama? Something in you is attracting that drama- Birds of a feather.
Can you look back and say that you have at least 1-2 friends that you have a positive relationship with that you have known and connected with for over 10 years? Do you constantly find yourself cycling through friends every few years or so- Birds of a feather.
Do you find yourself thinking at times that your friend is trifling and wondering why they aren't there for you when you need them- Birds of a feather.
If you find that you are unable to have people in your corner that you can truly trust- maybe you are not as trustworthy as you think you are. It's like when I hear women say that they don't hang out with other women because other women cause too much drama...but they forget about the drama that they cause.
The old saying goes "Birds of a feather flock together."
Who is in your flock?
Today's Challenge:
Inventory the type of people you have in your circle. Discover what it is about you that attracts and allows those type of people in your life. Decide what needs to be changed and have the courage to change it. It may be hard to walk away from some of the people that are in your circle after doing the inventory, but at what cost are you allowing them to remain in your circle?
Peace and Blessings,
Serenity & Strength Consulting
Friday, February 25, 2011
Does your relationship resume measure up?
This week, I saw two posts on Facebook that spoke of there being "no good men" out there in society. It broke my heart that so many women are disheartened in their dating search.
As women, we are programmed from the start to want the beautiful wedding complete with the dress, the good food and music, and the knight in shining armour. The reality of it is, after that four hour wedding comes a lifetime of marriage. Are you ready for marriage and commitment? Does your relationship resume measure up?
Women, do you have that list of things you want in a "good" man? Of course you do. We all should have those standards of what we will and will not accept in a mate. But do you measure up to those same standards? How can you ask him to come to the table with 100% when you are only willing to give 75%?
And let's not talk about the self esteem issues and quotes from Mama that hold us back from letting that "good" man treat us right. I bet a few of you have had a "good" man come across your path, but you weren't emotionally ready and he left. I've seen women have a wonderful man, but he was too fat, too nice, didn't make enough money, doesn't have a college degree- blah, blah, blah. You get the point don't you?
After that good man leaves, you feel abandoned and hurt so you lash out by saying there are no good men and then attach yourselves to a complete loser (and give yourself credit- you knew he was a loser from the start) and then complain that there are no good men. Or maybe you have outgrown the loser you chose and you are ready to move on, but you complain about the loser that you 1. had kids with, 2. had a relationship with for several years and now you are tired of his mess.
Ladies, please remember one thing: YOU CHOOSE the man you are with. If you choose a man that is disrespectful, that is irresponsible only because he's sexy as hell and good in bed- that is a direct reflection on where you are emotionally in your life.
The alternative is making sure that your relationship resume measures up.
If you want him to make 6 figures and have a college degree, do you have the same?
If you want him to be respectful and emotionally available, are you willing to to share your emotions with him and respect him as a man?
If you feel like he should make changes, are you willing to listen to his constructive criticism of you when you need to make changes?
Remember, the good man is going to want to take a look at your relationship resume as well? When that good man comes along, are you the right person for the job?
Today's Challenge:
Write your own relationship resume. Take a serious look at your redeeming qualities and your not so redeeming qualities. Hint- if most of the things you write down have to do with things or materialism, you have a whole other problem on your hands!
Peace and Blessings,
Serenity & Strength Consulting
Interested in life coaching services?
Contact serenitystrengthconsult@gmail.com for details.
As women, we are programmed from the start to want the beautiful wedding complete with the dress, the good food and music, and the knight in shining armour. The reality of it is, after that four hour wedding comes a lifetime of marriage. Are you ready for marriage and commitment? Does your relationship resume measure up?
Women, do you have that list of things you want in a "good" man? Of course you do. We all should have those standards of what we will and will not accept in a mate. But do you measure up to those same standards? How can you ask him to come to the table with 100% when you are only willing to give 75%?
And let's not talk about the self esteem issues and quotes from Mama that hold us back from letting that "good" man treat us right. I bet a few of you have had a "good" man come across your path, but you weren't emotionally ready and he left. I've seen women have a wonderful man, but he was too fat, too nice, didn't make enough money, doesn't have a college degree- blah, blah, blah. You get the point don't you?
After that good man leaves, you feel abandoned and hurt so you lash out by saying there are no good men and then attach yourselves to a complete loser (and give yourself credit- you knew he was a loser from the start) and then complain that there are no good men. Or maybe you have outgrown the loser you chose and you are ready to move on, but you complain about the loser that you 1. had kids with, 2. had a relationship with for several years and now you are tired of his mess.
Ladies, please remember one thing: YOU CHOOSE the man you are with. If you choose a man that is disrespectful, that is irresponsible only because he's sexy as hell and good in bed- that is a direct reflection on where you are emotionally in your life.
The alternative is making sure that your relationship resume measures up.
If you want him to make 6 figures and have a college degree, do you have the same?
If you want him to be respectful and emotionally available, are you willing to to share your emotions with him and respect him as a man?
If you feel like he should make changes, are you willing to listen to his constructive criticism of you when you need to make changes?
Remember, the good man is going to want to take a look at your relationship resume as well? When that good man comes along, are you the right person for the job?
Today's Challenge:
Write your own relationship resume. Take a serious look at your redeeming qualities and your not so redeeming qualities. Hint- if most of the things you write down have to do with things or materialism, you have a whole other problem on your hands!
Peace and Blessings,
Serenity & Strength Consulting
Interested in life coaching services?
Contact serenitystrengthconsult@gmail.com for details.
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Can you see the forest for the trees?
Most of us have heard this old adage from our grandparents and elders. I finally stopped to think about what it truly means.
If you were to stand in the midst of a vast forest, you would of course be surrounded by millions of trees of various sizes and shapes. There is life in the forest but can you see it? Do you hear the birds chirping, or smell the scents of nature and see all of the beautiful colors surrounding you? Or is the only thing you see the tree that has rotted and fallen in front of you, presenting an obstacle in your path?
It is easy to forget about all of the things that you have in the midst of crisis and inner turmoil. Our human instinct is programmed for survival so we instantly focus on the dreaded obstacle at hand instead of looking at the bigger picture.
Sure, today you lost your job- but was that job truly suited for you? You were just dreaming about starting your own business. Wouldn't now be the perfect time?
So you are feeling mentally and physically exhausted due to life's day to day frustrations- but someone didn't wake up this morning. Someone does not have a family to call their own.
How often do you spend time focusing on the rotted tree in front of you instead of wondering in the beauty of the total picture?
Today's Challenge:
For every negative thought you have, think of two positive things going on in your life. You will soon start to reshape your thinking and begin to see life for what is instead of what it isn't.
Peace and Blessings,
Serenity and Strength Consulting
Want to have your own life coaching session?
Contact serentitystrengthconsult@gmail.com for details.
If you were to stand in the midst of a vast forest, you would of course be surrounded by millions of trees of various sizes and shapes. There is life in the forest but can you see it? Do you hear the birds chirping, or smell the scents of nature and see all of the beautiful colors surrounding you? Or is the only thing you see the tree that has rotted and fallen in front of you, presenting an obstacle in your path?
It is easy to forget about all of the things that you have in the midst of crisis and inner turmoil. Our human instinct is programmed for survival so we instantly focus on the dreaded obstacle at hand instead of looking at the bigger picture.
Sure, today you lost your job- but was that job truly suited for you? You were just dreaming about starting your own business. Wouldn't now be the perfect time?
So you are feeling mentally and physically exhausted due to life's day to day frustrations- but someone didn't wake up this morning. Someone does not have a family to call their own.
How often do you spend time focusing on the rotted tree in front of you instead of wondering in the beauty of the total picture?
Today's Challenge:
For every negative thought you have, think of two positive things going on in your life. You will soon start to reshape your thinking and begin to see life for what is instead of what it isn't.
Peace and Blessings,
Serenity and Strength Consulting
Want to have your own life coaching session?
Contact serentitystrengthconsult@gmail.com for details.
Wednesday, January 5, 2011
Women's Empowerment Seminars by Serenity & Strength Consulting
Serenity & Strength Consulting is offering Women's Empowerment groups to get 2011 started off right. The Women's Empowerment Seminars focus on ways to find balance in your life, strengthen esteem, and strengthen communication within our families and relationships. We also focus on discovering your passion so that you wake everyday to do the things that enable you to Live Your Best Life.
If you are interested, please email serenitystrengthconsult@gmail.com. I look forward to bringing this empowering word and experience out to your group.
Peace and Blessings,
Tamara Grant
http://serenitystrengthconsult.blogspot.com/
If you are interested, please email serenitystrengthconsult@gmail.com. I look forward to bringing this empowering word and experience out to your group.
Peace and Blessings,
Tamara Grant
http://serenitystrengthconsult.blogspot.com/
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